Never a bride
So now that I've been to three weddings, there are several stand-out features that made some better than others:- Funny and heartfelt speeches from both the best man and maid of honour. I've heard a few bad ones, and some really good ones. It makes a huge difference in how people remember the wedding. Even if it's not your best man or maid of honour making the speeches, it definitely helps to have someone extroverted and with a good sense of humour to keep the guests entertained.
- Down-to-earth priests also keep everyone in the church happy. Of course this only applies to Christian/Catholic weddings as those have been the only ones I've been to. This mainly applies to the homily where the priest reflects on the couple, giving advice for the future. It's not exactly good when a priest is telling women in the crowd that they should submit to their husbands and that their opinion can be considered, but the man makes the final decision. I saw a couple of raised eyebrows when that came up at a wedding I attended.
- Let your guests join in the dances so that they don't feel they're just watching you trip the light fantastic. People do get bored without any activities
- Singing in church when the bride is entering is also a cool change from the norm... provided you can sing :)
Bad thing with all these weddings is that it gets people talking and more importantly, thinking about them. If you're really, really lucky, they'll remember to harass you on that issue of why you're not married yet ;)
posted by chronicblogger @ 1:13 AM
2 Comments:
Hey chocolates,
Would just like to clarify that in the wedding you attended where a couple of eyebrows were raised, the Bible passage was chosen by myself! =P Submission is something I wanted to learn. The passage was this: "Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands...". Note that the second half of the passage address the husbands, "Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives...". The pastor was mainly addressing us as the married couple, both the man and the woman. Not just the woman =) Husbands are also called to love their wives as Christ loved the church, who gave Himself up for her...
I understand that whenever women hear the word 'submission' they would get all defensive (my mum, for one, raised her eyebrows =P). But submission isn't about being a doormat, where the woman has no say at all... It's not as how most people view it in the modern world / ancient world. But that calls for another blog entry, don't u think? =)
I guess what I really wanted to say was... don't blame the pastor, it wasn't his fault =) If people were surprised by what he was saying about submission, put the blame on me, cos i asked for it to be said =)
I'm not looking to blame anybody, least of all you.
I hear it's a standard passage that's read in a lot of weddings. And yep I hear ya about how being submissive doesn't necessarily mean being a doormat - but I felt the pastor's interpretation of submission is exactly that. He said something like: "in any big decision, the man will consider the woman's opinion but he has the final say". That's pretty harsh I think ;) When I went to another wedding, that same passage was read. The priest's interpretation and homily didn't mention anything about who gets the final say. It was more about communication and understanding each other. I felt that was a more appropriate message to take away.
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